Separate but equal is never equal

More than 1700 same-sex couples have been married under San Francisco’s little act of “civil” disobedience. Thousands more are continuing to line up before Tuesday’s hearing to determine whether the state’s ban on same-sex marriages is constitutional. Most are from the Bay Area, but couples are coming in from all over the country to get married.

That’s beautiful.

Most straight people who are together don’t want to get married, but look at how desperate so many same-sex couples want to get married and publicly declare their love and lifetime committment to each other. Someone should do a study, if they haven’t already, of same-sex couples in general or specifically, these newlywed couples and see how long they stay together after getting married, whether the legality of it sticks or not. I bet same-sex couples would have a much lower rate of divorce– you know why? When you have been denied a right for so long, you appreciate it when you are finally given it. The ban on same-sex marriage, if anything, has probably only made marriage an even more sacred and more cherished union to same-sex couples.

If the courts have now ruled that “sodomy” is no longer illegal, then the courts have declared that this type of physical interaction between members of the same sex is, for lack of a better word, “okay” (or at least the laws that make it illegal are unconstitutional and a violation of privacy). If we can recognize the “okay-ness” of the physical act, isn’t it only natural to extend that “approval” to the emotional and spiritual relationship that can accompany the act? How ironic that so many will revile homosexuals for their presumed promiscuity and unsafe sex practices, but they will not grant them the right to marriage and the opportunity to declare to the world that they are partners in life, committed and true? I bet through legalized same-sex marriage, many homosexuals will publicly disprove the negative stereotypes that have plagued them in this country.

I use to think that civil unions were the solution, but Massachusetts was right. Civil unions are not enough. We are thinking too small. Marriage, truly and completely, is the only real answer. Have we not learned that “separate, but equal” is rarely ever equal?